A chemo-buddy sms-ed me this morning to tell me that she has decided to give up her fight. She has decided to stop all treatment, and medication. Because she discovered her husband had been cheating on her all these while.
She, like me is a stage 4 breast cancer survivor with mets to the bones. We knew each other late last year, when we were introduced to each other by the nurses at the Cancer Centre. We hit it off immediately, perhaps because we are in the same boat, we have the same stats, on the same drugs, same predicament. We are young, and we have kid(s).
I am not sure why, but when she told me her decision, I was just filled with so so much sadness, and than rage. Why?! Is it right to give up all treatment just like that, and see your body slowly waste away, when many others are struggling to live for just one more day? Is it right to leave your kids much earlier than expected, when many others couldn't are struggling to live just one more day to witness another of their baby's milestone. It is different when you lose the fight. You have no choice when you lose the fight. But to give it up...Bad!
I am praying very hard, and hoping that she will change her mind. Clinche as it may sound, do it for the sake of the kids. Yes, ultimately, they will be without her. So why not do all you can while you can to live a little longer, to create more memories which they can keep in their hearts for the many years that they will live without having her around.
Sigh....
Friday, July 25, 2008
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3 comments:
Personally, I don't agree in giving up the fight. But I do not know if she's facing any difficulties which is why she has chosen to give it up.
Will keep your friend in my prayers as well. May God grant her the wisdom.
Yes, i am hoping she comes to her senses. How have u been? You seem to be jetting from one state to another. Take care
This is soooo sad....How can she give up just because the hubby has cheated on her, the more she should show how well she can live, and how well she is going to survive despite havingto go through what she is going through.
It is really sad if she reallly no longer wants to fight on....
I will keep praying for her...
Love Fleur
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